seddy is in a situation

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alright here is my situation.

i met this girl back in april at a friends going away party, she in turn thought i was cool, and we exchanged numbers. now she has a kid who is now 15 momths old, so to be nice i texted her "happy mothers day" on mothers day and she invited me to porch drinking with some mutual friends, and from theer i was invited to her daughters birthdayparty in may. now not knowing how she felt. at that party i couldn't take my eyes off her.. she kinda had me there..lol but we talked a little and i mentioned about racing. she thought it was cool that race. i told her if she ever wanted to, she should come check me out in the local races. not taking it seriously, because no one comes to my races at all. the next week arrived, and i was up on the startinghill waiting for my moto when suddenly she showed up. i was never so happy to see her in my life at that point.

a few weeks later it was a rainy day, she was complaining about her family and child being fussy, and wante dto get out of the house, she wanted to just take a drive, so she texted me asking if i wanted togo along. again. i said alright. we drove for a few hours around pittsburgh just talking and getting to know each other. before dropping me off, we sat in her car infront of my house, we must have sat there for over an hour justtalking. i got a vibe that she wanted to kiss me..but i wasn't sure. we made another driving date, this time i would drive.

so that drivingdate comes, and we drive around up by the local track i ride at. we just todl each other aboutour lives, all our ups and downs. it was rainy again. we ended up back on her frontporch at teh end of the night and this tiem we finally kissed.

now i am gonan stop boring you guys..lol she showed up at all my races after that day, even my local nationals. she sat through 6 hours of bmx racing.. for me!

enough bragging to my problem. i liek her. i told her that i more than like her. but we are not "official". i asked about that and she said she wants to wait till she has a job again. (she was laid off form the post office in october of 2008) i told her i was cool with that, but i "more than like her"

my issue is even though we aren't official, should i tell her that i love her, or should i just wait till she gets work and makes us "official"?

i cannot stress that for the first time in a long time. i really do love her..

this weekend she is goin on a trip with herfriend to see her friends husband in D.C.( he is in the military).

i just need some help here. its been over 2 years since i was in a meaningful relationship and i don't wanna screw this up with her.
 

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Don't tell her you love her yet... it might freak her out I think. Give it sometime, because you might FEEL like you are.. but you might not be. Don't rush into things... that's all.. Just take it slow and don't rush into stuff. It will work out.. but as far as I can tell.. she must be really into you..

I guess she just wants to feel good about her self.. eg. job etc... so give it some time... but things are looking good. Just spend more and more time and things will become official slowly ;)
 

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glad i didn't do it.. we had a talk yesterday.. because she is getting stressed with finding a job, caring for her 15 month child, and noone giving us privacy.. we are friends for now.. her friend told me once you're in the friend zone.. its almost impossible to get out of it..


i am hurting so ****ing bad right now...............
 

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it suscks because how i feel for her is more than friends.. i care about her, .....i even care about her child.. an dthat is what makes it hard.. her kid would always bring toys to me, so i wouldgive them personalities, and she would laugh, she'd bring me those little kids books and i woudl read them to her..it hurts really bad that i may not be able to do that stuff anymore.
 

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Her friend said its hard to move from the friends place. She didn't say it though. If you be there for her and her child, she might change her mind. Alot of what makes a mother like a guy is how her children react to the guy.
 

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Awww !! No need to be broken hearted just yet, I go with Harry and Dae Dae, I don't think she wants to be just friends, maybe just a temporary situation till she sorts out her life =).

Apparently I am no good at giving advice so I won't do it. I tend to see life in bright colours. But just keep doing what you're doing and being there for her all the time and I think it'll work out just fine. =).

Ps. @ Harry: you and me is friends, almost brother and sister. Ha, I proved you wrong, oh yeahh! But that is rare so you're almost right.